Oh my February 14th Valentines Day! Is this day any different than any other day? On one hand yes it is, we go out of our way to make this day a little more special for our significant others, but, shouldn't we strive everyday to be loving to one another? Of course we should so this day is a reminder.
Valentines Day has meant different things to me through my lifetime, but, I think my present understanding is the best one. Valentines Day has historically been meant for lovers. This is a good thing when you are in a relationship with someone else, but, what if you are not in a relationship with a significant other? Are you supposed to be depressed that you do not have someone in your life to send or receive roses or affection from on Valentines Day? No way! What about the people who are in relationships and do not get their expectations met on Valentines Day should they be depressed about it? Again no. We don't have to be feeling badly on Valentines Day or any other day for that matter if we are treating ourselves as Valentines everyday. We should be daily giving ourselves gifts ( they do not have to be material gifts), love and flowers to fill our own hearts and needs. Then we can be grateful for the things we receive or do not receive from someone else since what we have is already enough. When we are enough for ourselves, then it does not matter whether we are getting the love we need or want from someone else. When we are enough for ourselves, we would not choose to be in relationships where we may feel unloved or shortchanged since it would go against our vibration and self love.
Even the best relationships can be rocky because of expectations. What if you receive something from your significant other, but, it was not what you wanted? The build up and expectations of Valentines Day can set us up for great joy or great disappointment if we are not careful. So tell a child you love them, tell your pets you love them, tell a good friend you love them anyone can be a Valentine for you. As John Lennon and The Beatles would say " The Love you take is equal to the love you make". So authentically love yourself first then you will be a beacon of love without even knowing it to those around you.
Happy Valentines Day My friends!